Those familiar with the Law of Attraction for some time will have heard the statement:
“Abundance is the natural state of affairs in the universe”
Why do you suppose that so many people don’t seem to have connected with that message? It seems like a perfectly simple message to me. As you sit there reading this right now, are you able to see that this is in fact the case? Do you sense an ability to connect with the abundance that’s all around you just as you’re there considering these words? Consider something important, a point I made in a post of mine once before titled: Abundance Does Not Equal Positive Experience Only. Abundance is not just defined by experiencing only the things you prefer. A truly abundant world includes things you don’t prefer as well. But quite naturally, you want to experience more of what you prefer. And in a world that is abundant, in fact, in a universe that is abundant, it’s reasonable to ask why there aren’t more people experiencing the kind of fulfillment they desire.
Many would say the conditions that surround them presently are the determinants of their perception of abundance. This is quite understandable, but also reflects a perception of one’s circumstances that isn’t consistent with being a deliberate creator of your life. This perspective, operating from the view that the circumstances around you determine your experience of happiness and fulfillment, is more in alignment with a victim mentality. It removes you from the loop of responsibility by leading you to believe that the circumstances that surround you are more powerful than you at determining your connection to your Source.
“Be in the world, but not of the world” is the counsel offered by the sages of old. The significance of this can be found in recognizing that we are all bodies that are in the world in some way. Being “of” the world means that we find ourselves at the mercy of the circumstances that surround us. What we feel, the thoughts we have, are perceived as caused by others. The statement, “you made me mad” for instance, is a good example of this stance. The statement, “I didn’t have a choice” is another example. Each of these statements is a description of what it means to live your life in a reactive fashion. There’s no reason to live this way. We don’t have to live at the mercy of the circumstances that surround us. Yet these statements also reflect well-established habits of seeing the world. People don’t go around intentionally choosing to feel worse. The things we do that make us feel worse are typically the product of habits of thought and behavior of which we’re largely unaware.
Choosing to be a deliberate creator of your life means closely examining these circumstances, however. And that can sometimes feel a bit confronting. The idea of being “in” the world can be a perspective that can help. This subtle shift in words points one’s attention inward, toward your source. The idea of being in the world and not of it then means we’re able to stand with certainty against the uncertain circumstances that surround us. Our well-being and sense of security and strength are grounded within and we can therefore choose what we will accept as an influence. We give ourselves behavioral options in this way as well. Free from needing to react to external forces, we can maintain the kind of mental clarity that supports the creation of our vision, the abundant life we desire.
By standing in your understanding that the abundance you desire is present within you now and always, you need not depend upon the ebb and flow of external circumstances to determine your state of wealth. You can help yourself along your path to an abundant life by taking the time to practice a simple 2 part exercise. My first “how to” for this site, here we go.
When I teach these skills in person, I always start with this kind of skill, an awareness skill. The reason for this is, while the Law of Attraction will operate in your life regardless of whether you’re aware of its existence or not, the deliberate part of being a deliberate creator lies in controlling your attention. What follows is essentially a simple process for learning to take control of your attention in the context of what can frequently be emotionally painful moments that can drain you of energy. It’s all fine that when you’re feeling good, you can more easily find positive feeling thoughts and focus on them. The challenge for many lies in what to do when they’re in the grip of feeling lousy, feeling out of sorts, or even upset. This is the time when having some kind of skill available can make it possible to break the stream of these negative thoughts and feelings.
One easy example starts with what I’ve already suggested. That we can easily find ourselves caught in the mindset that we need to defend ourselves against our thoughts or the circumstances we believe are associated with them. The process of getting out of these sometimes difficult and sticky mindsets seems somewhat counterintuitive…, you go into it, and you approach it. Here is the exercise:
To begin the process of taking yourself out of this mindset, there are two exercises I can recommend. First, think of something you find yourself particularly frustrated by. It doesn’t matter what it is, but ideally it would be something you experience with some frequency. Here are some examples of statements associated with what I’m thinking of:
“I’m always the last person to get picked”
“Nobody ever does things they way they should”
“I’m never able to get my way”
“I’m never going to be able to realize my dreams”
“With the world being the way it is, I’m never going to get what I really want.”
“Something happened in my past that shouldn’t have happened and I resent it. As a result I’ll never be able to get what I want.”
“You made me mad.”
“What else could I do.”
Work with these statements to fit with your own experience. Once you’ve settled on something, a thought or mindset, start to notice how you feel while you’re thinking it. Chances are good that you’ll experience either a mostly negative reaction or a slightly inflated sense of ego gratification associated with feeling justified that “This (whatever it is) should/shouldn’t have happened”
The response you’re having, that is, the emotional experience, is your body’s response to the thoughts you’re thinking. When you think thoughts like this, you’ll often elicit negative emotion.
Try to notice how often you operate from these thoughts.
You might start with something simple like try to notice how often in an hour you operate from a thought that’s similar to one of these. Then take some time to really consider what this reaction is about. Is this reaction helping you achieve your goals? Is it draining energy you could use for other things? If someone has said something to you that you feel offended by, are you actually diminished by their remarks? Or is it your ego that is caught by these remarks leaving you feeling like you must defend your position? (to get a clearer picture of the difference between your ego and your unconscious and still center, see my post on the Two Kinds of Consciousness)
As you sit there thinking about these issues, try to notice how these thoughts are associated with the emotions. As I said above, you emotions are only your body’s reaction to the thoughts you’re thinking. This is a way of stating this experience I’ve borrowed from author and spiritual teacher, Eckhart Tolle.
Now for the second part of the exercise.
Now that you’ve allowed yourself to experience these feelings, start reaching for their opposite. This will be the good feeling thoughts that are often the opposite of all these negative feelings. Feel the peace of letting this happen. If you notice any resistance don’t try to push it away, just be with it for a moment, then start reaching for the next better feeling thought.
If you practice this you’ll eventually develop a degree of mastery with this skill. You’ll be able to use it even when things are going “not so good.” Though this process you’re intentionally tapping into your abundant Source. As your skill grows with moving through resistance toward abundance, you’ll eventually begin feeling a pervading sense of peace. The abundance you desire in your outer life is dependent upon your connection to the abundance you can tap in your inner life.
When you can really operate from an awareness, a rock solid knowing that Abundance is the natural state of affairs in the universe, you’ll truly be able to realize the rich and abundant life you desire.
Dr. Ralph W.