Archive for July, 2010

Banishing Negative Thoughts

One of the most common suggestions I see regarding getting the most out of Law of Attraction, or simply in the pursuit of success is, banish your negative thoughts.  Getting rid of all negative thoughts seems to be a key component of achieving success using most any method. 

One big problem with this approach is, the moment you place your attention on the negative thoughts you want to be rid of, you’ve activated them in your experience.  Your unconscious, the part of you that is your soul, your being, operates on rules that are different from those that govern you conscious thinking mind.  In an attraction-based universe, giving your attention to something is activating it. 

You are a conduit through which energy flows into the manifested world.  Your attention is the guidance system that determines what is activated by the stream of energy that flows from deep within you.  It’s like a garden hose with water flowing through.  The water goes where you point the hose.  In this case, the energy goes, and activates, where you point your attention. 

It is for this reason that focusing your attention on negative thoughts and feelings will simply end up giving you more of something you don’t want. 

It may be helpful to consider what benefit negative thoughts provide.  This may seem counter-intuitive, but the results can be quite beneficial.  Negative thoughts and emotions are simply signals telling you that you are presently focused upon something you don’t prefer, or don’t like.  To change your experience all you need do is change where you’ve focused your attention. 

Beyond their function as signals for things you don’t like, negative thoughts and feelings serve another function.  They support the egoic sense of self.  Egoic, in the sense that author and spiritual teacher Eckhart Tolle talks about it, refers to the conscious mental processes that have been invested with a sense of “self” or “I.”  It’s your identification with the conscious thinking mind’s activities, its conceptualized past and future, that can cause confusion. 

It’s a little like identifying with the garden hose in the analogy above.  Most people are so identified with the thoughts they think, the ideas they have of who they are, the roles they play that they make the mistake of believing the content of the mind is actually who they are.  In the form of the analogy above its equivalent to believing you are the inanimate hose and not the vitalizing water running through the hose.  The vitalizing force that flows is who you are, not the structure that exists to provide direction to that energy flow.  This is the nature of the relationship between your conscious thinking mind and your source, your Being. 

Your conscious thinking mind is a tool that gives form to the impulses and intuition rising from deep within you.  Ego is the conscious thinking mind that’s been infused with “self.”  This is literally the content of your mind to which you’ve become attached and to which you identify. 

It’s the past you remember and describe as yours, not just to others, but to yourself.  It’s the experiences you call you own, it’s the culture you identify with, the political and religious affiliations you align with, the roles you play, and it’s also the future you plan for and anticipate.  All this and more constitute the content of your ego.  Negative thoughts are just a part of the manifested world, and a natural part of your own ego.  When you can learn to use them rather than being used by them by trying to banish them, or avoid them, you’ll have taken a major step toward using them as the tool they are intended to be. 

Best wishes,

Dr. Ralph W.

Western ideas of abundance seem to be very narrowly defined.  We here in the West seem to think that successfully bringing abundance into our lives means the elimination of all we regard as negative. Just because you don’t personally prefer something doesn’t mean its existence diminishes your ability to achieve a successful life.  Many try to eliminate the negative from their lives believing if they have a negative thought they’ll somehow start manifesting that experience in their world.  Noticing a thought and obsessively focusing upon it are distinctly different.  Those who feel compelled to rid themselves of “negative” thoughts are often in the grips of fear of one form or another.  Fearing the potential negative consequences of “negative” thoughts, they become vigilant for their presence, presumably to do away with them before they can create something they don’t want.  This, however, is a path that often leads to disappointment.  In an inclusion-based universe, which is a fundamental concept upon which the Law of Attraction depends, the attention you give to not experiencing what you don’t want activates that in your experience and you begin to attract it to you.  Or in the language I suggested in a previous post, you begin to resonate with a vibration that is consistent with what your attention is focused upon.  And all of this seems to be in service of homogenizing the world so that only those things regarded as “positive” come to populate our experience. 

Our desire to realize our vision, to live the successful life we imagine becomes a powerful and compelling force.  It can become easy to get attached to this image believing that our sense of safety, security, and success depend upon its achievement.  The perspective of our conscious thinking mind feeds us with information telling us we are separated from our goal, separated from the sense of salvation we expect to come from the achievement of our goals. 

When individual definitions of abundance rest upon a perspective that tells us we are separate from what we desire, we are given the opportunity to see such a perspective as a product of the mind-made self, the ego as the limitations of this perspective are apparent in the focus on exclusivity.  That is, seeking to exclude what is not wanted because it does not fit with a preconceived notion of abundance.  In essence, this is the ego’s actions of sifting and discriminating as it is compelled to do.  We can cross our own wires (emotionally and cognitively) by taking personally the presence of something we feel we didn’t choose and don’t prefer. 

In making an effort to see the things, people, and circumstances that populate our world from a broader perspective, we can appreciate that we each have different paths, different needs, and as a result have different likes and dislikes.  One person’s trash is another person’s treasure, if you will. 

When we can see that everything in our experience has value and function regardless of whether we personally prefer it or not, we can reduce our reactivity to circumstances we might otherwise think we “shouldn’t” have.  In so doing we regain our sense of personal power and help to maintain our outer alignment with our inner Source.

Best wishes, Dr. Ralph W.

P.S. A friend of mine suggested I should place a picture of myself on this site.  Does anyone have any comments about that?  If so, I invite you to leave them for me. In the mean time, I’ll try to find a picture that actually looks good.

Resonance vs. Attraction

I’ve been toying with an idea regarding the Law of Attraction.  For those who read my post regarding the “Vibe” and Quantum Physics…, you may begin to see some more of the direction of my thinking regarding this topic.  What I’m proposing is a different way of thinking about the attraction issue.  For many authors on Law of Attraction, the introduction of quantum theory usually occurs in support of the assertion of how your thoughts, and in fact you, function as a broadcast antenna for what you desire.  The ideas, such as it’s been presented…

Upon deciding what you want, you hold an image of yourself having what you want in mind.  This act functions as a beacon sending out signals into the universe which then drawn your desire to you.  You increase the strength of your signal by increasing the intensity of the emotions paired with the image of your desire.  This is the “how it works” theory of Law of Attraction in a nutshell. 

This is another area where I’ve had some concerns, one where I’ve sought to find a different answer.  Granted, what I’m proposing may be nothing other than a semantic difference, but I am still going to offer it nonetheless.  I’m not going to disagree with the basics of the principle of attraction, I’m just trying to change where people are focusing their attention. 

It occurs to me that thinking in terms of attraction focuses one’s attention outward, into the world.  As it seems to be commonly understood, focusing on attraction seems to be encouraging one to be vigilant for the object of their desire showing up on the horizon, in their mailbox, or in their driveway.  As I understand it these are spiritual principles, meaning the focus is meant to be inward first, emphasizing your sense of connectedness to your inner Self or Source. 

It just occurs to me that the concept of resonance can work a little better in service of emphasizing this inward focus first.  The kind of resonance I’m referring to is similar to that represented by a glass being broken by sound waves.  A tone is produced that induces the glass to begin to vibrate.  As the amplitude of the tone increases, the glass begins to vibrate more and more until it finally breaks.  A similar phenomenon can be seen when you strike a string on a guitar.  The vibration of that string sets off sympathetic vibrations on other strings.

The point is, recognizing that your desire is already within you first.  Consider it like this…  You may want a million dollars, but why?  What would become available to you if that cash were to be given to you?  Is it just about having a million dollars?  Pay off your bills, you might say, get out of debt, go on a trip.  All very nice, I’m sure, but think in terms of the internal dimensions of these experiences.  I know I’d certainly experience a sense of peace of mind, and security paying off my bills.  And while these are the outward things I’d seek, I must find their corresponding inner states first. 

Peace of mind, joy, enthusiasm, achieving a sense of balance and enlightenment.  These are the objectives that reflect the truth of your Source.  The object in this case becomes incidental to the state of your being, your sense of connectedness to yourself and others.  It’s the internal states that are reflected in the outward conditions we’re really after.  Yet our perspective, the perspective of the Western worldview, tends to focus on the outward conditions first. 

When you can recognize that these internal states are the essence of what you’re seeking in the outer world, you can also begin to see that what you desire is already within you.  All you need do is to BE NOW what you anticipate the realization of your outer dreams will bring you.  The strange thing is that once you’ve realized that what you’re seeking is already within you, that the wealth and abundance is available the moment you chose to recognize and allow yourself to be present to it, the realization of your dreams in the outer world becomes much easier because you will already be resonating with the vibration of your desire.

If you have any questions or comments, please let me know. 

Best wishes,

Dr. Ralph W.