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Western ideas of abundance seem to be very narrowly defined.  We here in the West seem to think that successfully bringing abundance into our lives means the elimination of all we regard as negative. Just because you don’t personally prefer something doesn’t mean its existence diminishes your ability to achieve a successful life.  Many try to eliminate the negative from their lives believing if they have a negative thought they’ll somehow start manifesting that experience in their world.  Noticing a thought and obsessively focusing upon it are distinctly different.  Those who feel compelled to rid themselves of “negative” thoughts are often in the grips of fear of one form or another.  Fearing the potential negative consequences of “negative” thoughts, they become vigilant for their presence, presumably to do away with them before they can create something they don’t want.  This, however, is a path that often leads to disappointment.  In an inclusion-based universe, which is a fundamental concept upon which the Law of Attraction depends, the attention you give to not experiencing what you don’t want activates that in your experience and you begin to attract it to you.  Or in the language I suggested in a previous post, you begin to resonate with a vibration that is consistent with what your attention is focused upon.  And all of this seems to be in service of homogenizing the world so that only those things regarded as “positive” come to populate our experience. 

Our desire to realize our vision, to live the successful life we imagine becomes a powerful and compelling force.  It can become easy to get attached to this image believing that our sense of safety, security, and success depend upon its achievement.  The perspective of our conscious thinking mind feeds us with information telling us we are separated from our goal, separated from the sense of salvation we expect to come from the achievement of our goals. 

When individual definitions of abundance rest upon a perspective that tells us we are separate from what we desire, we are given the opportunity to see such a perspective as a product of the mind-made self, the ego as the limitations of this perspective are apparent in the focus on exclusivity.  That is, seeking to exclude what is not wanted because it does not fit with a preconceived notion of abundance.  In essence, this is the ego’s actions of sifting and discriminating as it is compelled to do.  We can cross our own wires (emotionally and cognitively) by taking personally the presence of something we feel we didn’t choose and don’t prefer. 

In making an effort to see the things, people, and circumstances that populate our world from a broader perspective, we can appreciate that we each have different paths, different needs, and as a result have different likes and dislikes.  One person’s trash is another person’s treasure, if you will. 

When we can see that everything in our experience has value and function regardless of whether we personally prefer it or not, we can reduce our reactivity to circumstances we might otherwise think we “shouldn’t” have.  In so doing we regain our sense of personal power and help to maintain our outer alignment with our inner Source.

Best wishes, Dr. Ralph W.

P.S. A friend of mine suggested I should place a picture of myself on this site.  Does anyone have any comments about that?  If so, I invite you to leave them for me. In the mean time, I’ll try to find a picture that actually looks good.

Attraction is a Deliberate Mindset

I was watching a television show recently that featured people who are struggling with various kinds of addiction.  My heart goes out to these people.  Granted, their behavior can sometimes be very difficult to deal with, confronting, even abusive.  It’s important to keep in mind that this is the addiction, the disease talking.  Despite the sometimes challenging behavior, I can still see the pain these people are in.  The addiction is so often a means of self-medication, and I know that in addition to the physical pain they feel, there is the challenge of confronting the emotional pain their addiction has covered up for so long.

In this particular show, a young man was struggling with an addiction to heroin.  As is often the case, the first few days in recovery are the worst.  As he was speaking about the physical discomfort and pain he experienced, he then commented about his emotional and psychological struggle.  He said, “I don’t know why God put me on this planet.”

The look on his face revealed the pain and desolation he experienced at not knowing how to answer this question for himself.

His comment struck me and made me think about what his experience can teach.  Perhaps because I work as a therapist I see more than my share of people who struggle with a similar sense of personal desolation; not knowing what to do in the absence of a sense of meaning for one’s life.

I thought about what it might be like to talk to such a person about Law of Attraction.  It occurred to me that this may not be such a welcome conversation, particularly at such a low point in one’s life.  It occurred to me that before someone in such a situation would really welcome such a conversation there would need to be some personal healing (that seems obvious, doesn’t it…).  But beyond that, the statement itself, “I don’t know why God has put me on this planet” suggests a lack of control;  a perception that the circumstances of your life (his life, in this case, but really anyone who is trying to successfully apply these principles) are in control and you’re at the mercy of these powerful forces.

It’s like a pinball in a pinball machine, bouncing from one bumper to another.

Knowledge of the Law of Attraction holds the promise of realizing your dream life, but it also calls on those who want to deliberately apply it to take full responsibility of the circumstances of their lives.  It’s worth noting that this is much easier said than done in most cases.  The way we, humans, that is, tend to interpret experiences and attribute causes seems to reflect a stronger desire to avoid responsibility than to embrace it.  Yet being successful as a deliberate creator means owning what’s yours to be responsible for; embracing your responsibility and in the process recognizing that doing so demonstrates your awareness of yourself as a powerful deliberate creator.

Best wishes,

Dr. Ralph W.