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Those familiar with the Law of Attraction for some time will have heard the statement:

“Abundance is the natural state of affairs in the universe”

Why do you suppose that so many people don’t seem to have connected with that message?  It seems like a perfectly simple message to me.  As you sit there reading this right now, are you able to see that this is in fact the case?  Do you sense an ability to connect with the abundance that’s all around you just as you’re there considering these words?  Consider something important, a point I made in a post of mine once before titled: Abundance Does Not Equal Positive Experience Only.  Abundance is not just defined by experiencing only the things you prefer.  A truly abundant world includes things you don’t prefer as well.  But quite naturally, you want to experience more of what you prefer.  And in a world that is abundant, in fact, in a universe that is abundant, it’s reasonable to ask why there aren’t more people experiencing the kind of fulfillment they desire.

Many would say the conditions that surround them presently are the determinants of their perception of abundance.  This is quite understandable, but also reflects a perception of one’s circumstances that isn’t consistent with being a deliberate creator of your life.  This perspective, operating from the view that the circumstances around you determine your experience of happiness and fulfillment, is more in alignment with a victim mentality.  It removes you from the loop of responsibility by leading you to believe that the circumstances that surround you are more powerful than you at determining your connection to your Source. 

“Be in the world, but not of the world” is the counsel offered by the sages of old.  The significance of this can be found in recognizing that we are all bodies that are in the world in some way.  Being “of” the world means that we find ourselves at the mercy of the circumstances that surround us.  What we feel, the thoughts we have, are perceived as caused by others.  The statement, “you made me mad” for instance, is a good example of this stance.  The statement, “I didn’t have a choice” is another example.  Each of these statements is a description of what it means to live your life in a reactive fashion.  There’s no reason to live this way.  We don’t have to live at the mercy of the circumstances that surround us.  Yet these statements also reflect well-established habits of seeing the world.  People don’t go around intentionally choosing to feel worse.  The things we do that make us feel worse are typically the product of habits of thought and behavior of which we’re largely unaware. 

Choosing to be a deliberate creator of your life means closely examining these circumstances, however.  And that can sometimes feel a bit confronting.  The idea of being “in” the world can be a perspective that can help.  This subtle shift in words points one’s attention inward, toward your source.  The idea of being in the world and not of it then means we’re able to stand with certainty against the uncertain circumstances that surround us.  Our well-being and sense of security and strength are grounded within and we can therefore choose what we will accept as an influence.  We give ourselves behavioral options in this way as well.  Free from needing to react to external forces, we can maintain the kind of mental clarity that supports the creation of our vision, the abundant life we desire. 

By standing in your understanding that the abundance you desire is present within you now and always, you need not depend upon the ebb and flow of external circumstances to determine your state of wealth.  You can help yourself along your path to an abundant life by taking the time to practice a simple 2 part exercise.  My first “how to” for this site, here we go. 

When I teach these skills in person, I always start with this kind of skill, an awareness skill.  The reason for this is, while the Law of Attraction will operate in your life regardless of whether you’re aware of its existence or not, the deliberate part of being a deliberate creator lies in controlling your attention.  What follows is essentially a simple process for learning to take control of your attention in the context of what can frequently be emotionally painful moments that can drain you of energy.  It’s all fine that when you’re feeling good, you can more easily find positive feeling thoughts and focus on them.  The challenge for many lies in what to do when they’re in the grip of feeling lousy, feeling out of sorts, or even upset.  This is the time when having some kind of skill available can make it possible to break the stream of these negative thoughts and feelings. 

One easy example starts with what I’ve already suggested.  That we can easily find ourselves caught in the mindset that we need to defend ourselves against our thoughts or the circumstances we believe are associated with them.  The process of getting out of these sometimes difficult and sticky mindsets seems somewhat counterintuitive…, you go into it, and you approach it.  Here is the exercise:

To begin the process of taking yourself out of this mindset, there are two exercises I can recommend.  First, think of something you find yourself particularly frustrated by.  It doesn’t matter what it is, but ideally it would be something you experience with some frequency.  Here are some examples of statements associated with what I’m thinking of:

“I’m always the last person to get picked”

“Nobody ever does things they way they should”

“I’m never able to get my way”

“I’m never going to be able to realize my dreams”

“With the world being the way it is, I’m never going to get what I really want.”

“Something happened in my past that shouldn’t have happened and I resent it.  As a result I’ll never be able to get what I want.”

“You made me mad.”

“What else could I do.”

Work with these statements to fit with your own experience.  Once you’ve settled on something, a thought or mindset, start to notice how you feel while you’re thinking it.  Chances are good that you’ll experience either a mostly negative reaction or a slightly inflated sense of ego gratification associated with feeling justified that “This (whatever it is) should/shouldn’t have happened” 

The response you’re having, that is, the emotional experience, is your body’s response to the thoughts you’re thinking. When you think thoughts like this, you’ll often elicit negative emotion. 

Try to notice how often you operate from these thoughts. 

You might start with something simple like try to notice how often in an hour you operate from a thought that’s similar to one of these.  Then take some time to really consider what this reaction is about.  Is this reaction helping you achieve your goals?  Is it draining energy you could use for other things?  If someone has said something to you that you feel offended by, are you actually diminished by their remarks?  Or is it your ego that is caught by these remarks leaving you feeling like you must defend your position?  (to get a clearer picture of the difference between your ego and your unconscious and still center, see my post on the Two Kinds of Consciousness)

As you sit there thinking about these issues, try to notice how these thoughts are associated with the emotions.  As I said above, you emotions are only your body’s reaction to the thoughts you’re thinking. This is a way of stating this experience I’ve borrowed from author and spiritual teacher, Eckhart Tolle. 

Now for the second part of the exercise. 

Now that you’ve allowed yourself to experience these feelings, start reaching for their opposite.  This will be the good feeling thoughts that are often the opposite of all these negative feelings.  Feel the peace of letting this happen.  If you notice any resistance don’t try to push it away, just be with it for a moment, then start reaching for the next better feeling thought. 

If you practice this you’ll eventually develop a degree of mastery with this skill.  You’ll be able to use it even when things are going “not so good.”  Though this process you’re intentionally tapping into your abundant Source.  As your skill grows with moving through resistance toward abundance, you’ll eventually begin feeling a pervading sense of peace.  The abundance you desire in your outer life is dependent upon your connection to the abundance you can tap in your inner life. 

When you can really operate from an awareness, a rock solid knowing that Abundance is the natural state of affairs in the universe, you’ll truly be able to realize the rich and abundant life you desire.

Best wishes,

Dr. Ralph W.

The Thieves of Abundance

Living in a big city, or, more accurately, near a big city, one is inevitably informed of crime that occurs.  I live just outside Chicago, the third largest city by population in the United States.  Crime statistics about burglaries, robberies, and the like are available to me any time I want to watch the evening news.  But the would-be robbers and pick-pockets that inhabit the streets are not the thieves for which I have the greatest concern. 

The greatest thieves of our abundance we experience are the messages, the ideas that suggest there is lack.  But this is just part of the picture.  A reasonable question might be, “what do we do with our knowledge of the world when considering abundance?”  Attention quite naturally turns toward oil as a leading example of this issue.  It’s not only the fuel for our vehicles; it’s the fuel of the economic engine across the globe.  It’s hard to ignore the reports that tell us supplies are on the decline.  Scientists and political leaders debate the veracity of one report versus another, seemingly to produce more and more fear about the potential end.  Fear, too, seems to be part of the global economic engine. 

I see the reports, too, and find myself experiencing reactions to the messages.  But I also seek to continue living the life I choose. This includes continuing to be a consumer of news and information programming I enjoy.  As an avid consumer of news programming, I see the messages that are broadcast out to millions.  Unlike some others who proclaim that it’s patently undesirable to watch news programming if your desire is to live a spiritually awakened life, I embrace news and information programming.  I see it as one of the ways I’m able to see the unfolding of a new consciousness within our social fabric. 

I recognize that what I react to, particularly the things I don’t like I am in some way participating in, but I also understand the value of contrast.  I recognize that I am not the content of my thoughts and emotions, and my reaction to a news story doesn’t need to become a force that shapes my destiny.  Yet this could easily become the case, I could find myself easily becoming trapped in a state of reaction if I were not able to accept what is so about the world.  I can accept what is so about the world without needing to like it.  This is a distinction I make frequently with my clients: Acceptance does not equal Approval.  

The distinction between acceptance and approval is a discipline primarily for the conscious thinking mind.  It helps me to recognize that there are many things in the world of which I’m not going to approve.  It doesn’t help me, or anyone else, to live in a state of reactivity to the conditions such as they are.  In the same way, however, just because I’m capable of accepting things as they are doesn’t mean I sit back and do nothing to change myself or the world in which I live.  Nor does it mean I need to consider myself a door-mat for the actions of others who may view my approach as evidence of weakness. 

It is, in fact, a stance that produces a great deal of peace.  Not identifying with the content of my thoughts and emotions, I am not compelled to defend them should someone express disagreement.  The operative word here being, “compelled.”  I have the option of defending any position I desire, which is a benefit that comes from not identifying with the content of my mind-made self, the ego. 

It is in this way that I am also able to take a stand for abundance.  Notice I didn’t say something like “against….” The abundance that never diminishes is the reservoir of unending energy that is your Source, you Being, that transcendent stillness deep within.  The circumstances of the outer world will come and go, and identifying with your Source within means you will maintain your connection to the still point within despite the ebb and flow of the world around you. 

The thieves of our abundance lie in identification with the world of forms, believing these to be real.  This is the seat of uncertainty and insecurity that the ego responds to as threats.  When we feel uncertain, when we feel our abundance (in the outer world) is threatened, the ego’s tendency is to contract, retreat, and defend.  In the process we can easily get caught up in the content of the conscious thinking mind, believing it to be real, and in the process we pinch closed the flow of energy from our source.  This is what makes it—whatever the “it” is—feel “bad.” 

The abundance you wish to experience in the outer world is within you first.  It is never in limited supply, and doesn’t depend upon tankers for its delivery.  The outward manifestation of abundance may change with passing time, but the inward will always be there, always be constant, and completely reliable.  The laws of the universe including the Law of Attraction will always operate regardless of the changes in our outer conditions.  There are really no thieves in the world that would ever be able to steal your abundance.

Best wishes,

Dr. Ralph W.

Resonance vs. Attraction

I’ve been toying with an idea regarding the Law of Attraction.  For those who read my post regarding the “Vibe” and Quantum Physics…, you may begin to see some more of the direction of my thinking regarding this topic.  What I’m proposing is a different way of thinking about the attraction issue.  For many authors on Law of Attraction, the introduction of quantum theory usually occurs in support of the assertion of how your thoughts, and in fact you, function as a broadcast antenna for what you desire.  The ideas, such as it’s been presented…

Upon deciding what you want, you hold an image of yourself having what you want in mind.  This act functions as a beacon sending out signals into the universe which then drawn your desire to you.  You increase the strength of your signal by increasing the intensity of the emotions paired with the image of your desire.  This is the “how it works” theory of Law of Attraction in a nutshell. 

This is another area where I’ve had some concerns, one where I’ve sought to find a different answer.  Granted, what I’m proposing may be nothing other than a semantic difference, but I am still going to offer it nonetheless.  I’m not going to disagree with the basics of the principle of attraction, I’m just trying to change where people are focusing their attention. 

It occurs to me that thinking in terms of attraction focuses one’s attention outward, into the world.  As it seems to be commonly understood, focusing on attraction seems to be encouraging one to be vigilant for the object of their desire showing up on the horizon, in their mailbox, or in their driveway.  As I understand it these are spiritual principles, meaning the focus is meant to be inward first, emphasizing your sense of connectedness to your inner Self or Source. 

It just occurs to me that the concept of resonance can work a little better in service of emphasizing this inward focus first.  The kind of resonance I’m referring to is similar to that represented by a glass being broken by sound waves.  A tone is produced that induces the glass to begin to vibrate.  As the amplitude of the tone increases, the glass begins to vibrate more and more until it finally breaks.  A similar phenomenon can be seen when you strike a string on a guitar.  The vibration of that string sets off sympathetic vibrations on other strings.

The point is, recognizing that your desire is already within you first.  Consider it like this…  You may want a million dollars, but why?  What would become available to you if that cash were to be given to you?  Is it just about having a million dollars?  Pay off your bills, you might say, get out of debt, go on a trip.  All very nice, I’m sure, but think in terms of the internal dimensions of these experiences.  I know I’d certainly experience a sense of peace of mind, and security paying off my bills.  And while these are the outward things I’d seek, I must find their corresponding inner states first. 

Peace of mind, joy, enthusiasm, achieving a sense of balance and enlightenment.  These are the objectives that reflect the truth of your Source.  The object in this case becomes incidental to the state of your being, your sense of connectedness to yourself and others.  It’s the internal states that are reflected in the outward conditions we’re really after.  Yet our perspective, the perspective of the Western worldview, tends to focus on the outward conditions first. 

When you can recognize that these internal states are the essence of what you’re seeking in the outer world, you can also begin to see that what you desire is already within you.  All you need do is to BE NOW what you anticipate the realization of your outer dreams will bring you.  The strange thing is that once you’ve realized that what you’re seeking is already within you, that the wealth and abundance is available the moment you chose to recognize and allow yourself to be present to it, the realization of your dreams in the outer world becomes much easier because you will already be resonating with the vibration of your desire.

If you have any questions or comments, please let me know. 

Best wishes,

Dr. Ralph W.

Attraction is a Deliberate Mindset

I was watching a television show recently that featured people who are struggling with various kinds of addiction.  My heart goes out to these people.  Granted, their behavior can sometimes be very difficult to deal with, confronting, even abusive.  It’s important to keep in mind that this is the addiction, the disease talking.  Despite the sometimes challenging behavior, I can still see the pain these people are in.  The addiction is so often a means of self-medication, and I know that in addition to the physical pain they feel, there is the challenge of confronting the emotional pain their addiction has covered up for so long.

In this particular show, a young man was struggling with an addiction to heroin.  As is often the case, the first few days in recovery are the worst.  As he was speaking about the physical discomfort and pain he experienced, he then commented about his emotional and psychological struggle.  He said, “I don’t know why God put me on this planet.”

The look on his face revealed the pain and desolation he experienced at not knowing how to answer this question for himself.

His comment struck me and made me think about what his experience can teach.  Perhaps because I work as a therapist I see more than my share of people who struggle with a similar sense of personal desolation; not knowing what to do in the absence of a sense of meaning for one’s life.

I thought about what it might be like to talk to such a person about Law of Attraction.  It occurred to me that this may not be such a welcome conversation, particularly at such a low point in one’s life.  It occurred to me that before someone in such a situation would really welcome such a conversation there would need to be some personal healing (that seems obvious, doesn’t it…).  But beyond that, the statement itself, “I don’t know why God has put me on this planet” suggests a lack of control;  a perception that the circumstances of your life (his life, in this case, but really anyone who is trying to successfully apply these principles) are in control and you’re at the mercy of these powerful forces.

It’s like a pinball in a pinball machine, bouncing from one bumper to another.

Knowledge of the Law of Attraction holds the promise of realizing your dream life, but it also calls on those who want to deliberately apply it to take full responsibility of the circumstances of their lives.  It’s worth noting that this is much easier said than done in most cases.  The way we, humans, that is, tend to interpret experiences and attribute causes seems to reflect a stronger desire to avoid responsibility than to embrace it.  Yet being successful as a deliberate creator means owning what’s yours to be responsible for; embracing your responsibility and in the process recognizing that doing so demonstrates your awareness of yourself as a powerful deliberate creator.

Best wishes,

Dr. Ralph W.